Showing posts with label sisters. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sisters. Show all posts

Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Trip to NYC in July

  It was Thursday25th July night, and I realized as I looked at my friend Nikki's (AKA AT trail name Argo) pictures on her FB page, about how she had just crossed the Delaware Water Gap, on her journey through hiking the Appalachian Trail. I would be driving through the Delaware Water Gap on the 26th. IF only we had planned it better I might have met her at the Gap. I felt sad I wouldn't be able to meet up with her on the trail, since my time off from work is limited, and coordinating such a thing was difficult. I resigned and decided that I should accept this. It would be ok. Nikki would be fine, and she would still be my friend, my sister...

The next day, I decided to message her and send her some love because I had come to accept the reality. So I just sent her a message saying -  I love you Nikki Sis! She messaged me back - How is you summer my Indian Goddess! So I began to tell her some story, or the other, and said I wish I was hiking with her. From her reply I gathered many people were finding it hard to coordinate time to hike with her. We began planning future trips, and I happened to mention I was going to NYC that very day. 

Me- going to NYC this weekend how far have u gone from the delaware gap?

Nikki-I'm in newyork... I can see the NYC skyline from where I am!
Lots of hikers taking buses into the city for a few days lol


Me-WHAT!
omg ill be in new york this weekend!
could we meet up?


At that moment I was called into a meeting. I was crunched for time to get work done, before I had to leave, and this meeting was over, but people tend to go over points over and over again. I had to leave work at 12:00 so I could go home and leave to pick up Ryan and head on our way to NYC. It's an 8 hour drive!
Finally when I got out of the meeting I see a missed call, a text message and another instant message all from Nikki. 


Nikki- Lol um maybe... Are you staying with your sister?
Give me a call, I can take an hour and a half bus ride and I'd be there!
I can leave out of Warwick NY

Me-Nikki I was in a meeting!
YES!
We will be staying at my grandparent's place! Or there is also my sister's place!

Nikki- Lol omg would they let a hiker sleep on their floor?

Me- we're all going to sleep on the floor

my sis, me, ryan, my sis' fiance and my mom!
Nikki- Omg this is crazy
Should I ask your mom if this is ok lol

Me-my mom would LOVE to see you

Nikki- I can't stop giggling!
When are you guys getting there ?

Me- we would get there at 9pm tonight
but u cud get there before
you will love my grandmother

Nikki- Just called Paul and told him... He was like ' good luck' what are you going to do there... And I said eat amazing food and be with amazing people
...

We finally met, hugged, and there was giggles and tears all at once! We knew this trip was meant to be... Somehow things had worked out even though I had accepted the bitter truth... but it happened!!! I met her near the trail, and we hiked, explored, bonded and had fun. Not just Nikki and I but the whole lot of us. The three sisters, the mothers, the lovers, the friends... 

What a whirlwind of a weekend we had! We met up with my sister, my sister took us to some cool places, Strawberry Fields, the Mind Tree, where we did a little yoga, Tomlin Square to listen to cool yoga teacher who played Rumba music in the park! We met a few more of her artist friends! Then we went to a cozy - cool bar which had grapes growing atop it and celebrated my sister's birthday. We met her wonderful friend Aric and took cool pictures. We had a wonderful dinner with our family, hit up a bar my uncle went to when he was in college. We even briefly met my cousins Atanu and Antara the next morning, and got a little bit of shopping in! Oh to experience the New York Minute with this crazy lot: Ryan, My sister and her Fiance the amazing artist Chris, My other sister Nikki, Aric, My mom, grandparents, my Uncle and his Girlfriend! Wow!



At the Mind Tree

Yogis at central park!

The Family! a few people are missing!

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Memories of Younger Years with My Sister Dear

Today is my little sister's birthday. She isn't little anymore... but I do recall that I called her "Baby" for many a year. I switched between calling her Baby and Bontie through the years, until per chance, me and a close friend of ours began calling her Pig. This blog post is dedicated to my lovely sister - Piyali.

Dearest Bontie, Pig, Baby, Piyali... 
I just want to wish you a happy birthday, but those are cliched words, I really wish you all the joy, love, success and laughter today, this year and forever! I love you so much, and I am so grateful to have you in my life for 28 years! Ok I think we didn't see each other between 2001 - 2002 but after that we have seen each other once every year. It's unhealthy and unnatural for us to be apart... we have some weird familial, historical dynamic... something from our childhood, genetic, and spiritual bonds us. We are telepathic and you know it!

28 years! we've fought, hugged, cried, grown, argued, silent treatment, tickled, giggled, pulled hairs, played, slept, ate, read, wandered and wondered, lost ourselves, found ourselves... we've been through so much, and here we are sharing stories and growing even more. Some memories of our childhood which only we know, secrets, gross stuff, sparkly stuff... locked away in our hearts. Playing with you was always so much fun - imagining castles, our flying horses, and our light sabers... what wonderful adventures we had together, what awesome world's we lived in. Running barefoot in school, playing at the jungle gym, waiting for our car together under the tree and observing those red-diamond bugs, the powder -puff tree, the tamarind tree, climbing the mango tree, Tennis with Raghu, then later with Sundar, Mrs. Menon's singing class, Hindi tuition with Motoraj! Bengali clas,s french, class, German, class, dance class, swimming class... I almost forgot the naughty things we did - put on ma's make up, clothes, and shoes, skipping class, feeding the dog our breakfast under the table, cuddling with the bunnies at night, sneaking and eating all the chocolate, our search for stick-em-stones, the war over the trolls, the "i'm-gonna-be" game... 

I lead, being the older sister, and you followed. You always tagged along on my birthdays, and got gifts on my birthday! But strangely I never got gifts on your birthday, or was allowed to tag along. Some double standard! Anyway, I remember approving of your crushes, and was always wondering why you fell for the geeks! It was because I was a geek! Which I had learned from our uncle first hand.

I remember you being fussy with food, the curly head of hair, the big innocent eyes-oh god- heart wrenching, and you were always a skinny little thing. You always said the cutest things, and the most absurd dreams, oh pig although I never told you then... you were always my best friend. The whole time... even when you were hurt, and they called me from class to go take care of you, I acted resentful, but when I saw you I thought- aww that's my sister (I didn't know the word "aww" back then though) I need to hug her if at all anything. I remember I would just hug you. Heck the whole school thought you were so cute though, they would all tell me how cute you were! Maybe I was a little jealous, but hey I got to tell you stories at night from the upper bunk, and share adventures with you on the weekends!

We were scolded together, and then we grew up and played politics and got each other in trouble. All in all I'm glad we've grown and aren't playing those games, but I do miss the imaginary games we played. Sometimes I think I described things to you as I saw it in my head, and only you know what worlds are in my head! You are my best friend, you are my secret keeper, my sister, my angel, (also ma's angel), my play time friend, my motivator, and inspiration. Thank you for the talk we had the other day, I really needed it.

You always protected me; once we were walking through new market and some guy did what any ingrate low-life would do: brush against my body. And you asked me: did that guy just touch you inappropriately? I confirmed your suspicion, and you were enraged and said no - one touches my sis like that. You grabbed the guy and asked him - aren't you ashamed? don't you have a mother, or sister? you should be ashamed of yourself. You tried to cause a scene, but as we know Calcutta did not and does not care what happens to its women. You were and are my hero pig! Thank you for being there, for standing up for me, and having major balls! I love you!

Pig there's so much I still want to talk to you about, sometimes I wish we could go back and be innocent again and play, and make mud laddos, but we can only travel in our hearts, to relive those moments, revel in the nostalgia. However I want to make new memories and spend more time with you... but time flies so quickly now... Those 100 day summer vacations are gone, they flew by! I know sometimes it seems I don't make enough effort to be there for you... but if I could I'd be there with you making tents out of blankets on a rainy monsoon afternoon, so we could play monster - monster. Or I would be there for you when you called, but grown up life is so different... did we ever imagine this? You've found your prince, and will soon be wed... I never imagined that! I never imagined you being the New Yorker, and me the New Yorker, loving midwest suburbia!

To more adventures and journeys together!


I love you little sister and hope to see more of you!


Your Dedly deds/ didi ...

Forever!



 ps: loved doing yoga with you!


waiting at the dentist! 2013 July 19th


Breathe!

Monday, May 20, 2013

Chanting to Raise Your Vibrations

Ram Dass explains that chanting in Sanskrit is important; the language was created during a time of evolving consciousness, so the sounds produced through Sanskrit opens chakras and channels within your body in the energetically level. Hence, I feel that since one decides to use mantra in daily practice they should go all the way with learning pronunciation and chanting in a way that serves the purpose of opening Chakras and balancing the body, mind, and purify the Athman.

A conversation with my little sister

Picture Courtesy Conscious Culture


Friday, May 17, 2013

A Shower for a Lovely Bride

Freshman year of college, I was kind of new to USA, especially since I had not lived here since I was 4 years old. I met a girl who lived across the hall from me, and by the second or third week of school we were already having adventures together. One usually expects room mates to grow close but she and I grew close thanks to an incident that led us to evacuate campus, and i was welcomed into her family and home. We eventually did become room mates, ate lots of pop corn, and went for mid night runs because we were pulling all-nighters, and charged up on caffeine. As the semester and our freshman year adventures came to a close, we transferred out, but always kept in touch, meeting every couple of years. I will never forget how she and her family touched my life, helped me out, took me winter coat shopping, helped me cope with Michigan-ness, and a bunch of other things!

I was so happy to be present for her Bridal Shower!



For the record ... it did rain.

The day was filled with showers from up above, love from friends and family, gifts, wishes of good luck, many hugs and blessings!


<3


Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Third Decade Complete

On the brink of completing my third decade here as a human being on earth, many thoughts come to mind as I come to this milestone. Some measure life through accomplishments - financial, career, or family creation. Some say age is nothing but a number. Some say life starts at thirty. Some say the biological clock of a woman in her thirties is ticking real fast! Some say ... there are a lot of sayings and interpretations... I maybe behind on the achievements side, but where I lack there... I make up in a number of other fields.

Here I sit, panicked, anxious, and counting my blessings. Seriously counting... Pree, what makes your life on earth, using all these natural resources and air, worth it? What do you contribute? What have you DONE so far? I can compare my self to others and I would fall short, and relative to others still I may have accomplished more. However IS life a competition as to who has done what? Sometimes I think Indians today seem to focus on this a lot, especially the ones I know. Also I guess all people in general want to be proud of their kin, family, children.

I found out from my mom 30 years ago on the night of the 14th at 2am did the contractions begin. Her father drove her to the hospital, and my dad arrived there shortly, however he didn't see me come out, he has a week stomach and would have fainted. They did not know if I was going to be a boy or girl, so I was a surprise! They played Indian classical music as I was born naturally. I loved reading and animals right off the bat, and my favorite Hindi movie was Nagina, where Sridevi acts as a lady who turns into a snake! I remember my sis being born, I called her "Baby" for many years, even when  we moved to India and went to school there. "Baby" was my best friend, sister, and inspiration for many a things! We created worlds together.

I think the major things that I've learnt from completing three decades is how to make good true friends, letting go, introspection, and living, loving, laughing and learning! I learned through all my different friendships and relationships how to be good at them, how to be a good friend and how to appreciate those who are good friends to me. Many a time I failed. Relationships whether family, friends or lovers, can be difficult. Friendships seem simple enough but not always so. Sometimes it can be difficult, sometimes people change and sometimes they are annoying, but always you remember who they are deep inside, and know they have loved you back. Sometimes people let you down, but don't take you personally. I have, taken it personally many times, cried over lost friendships, disloyalty... drama! This leads to the second thing I learned: Letting go. However I am have an amazing group of friends... so glad to have you all in my life!

I learnt (and am still learning) the art of letting go, and that it is OKAY to let go. it's ok to embrace the ebb and flow of the the things, people, places in your life. It's dynamic, its impermanent, exhale and let it go! especially let go of the stresses of the day, any problems that are lingering, let it go for one second. Sure enough if a friend is a friend they come back, sometimes we all need space to grow in other ways. Letting go is tough because we get so attached to things that are external that make us happy. We focus on those so much that we forget that we can find that "happy" inside, if we clear the junk. This leads to the next accomplishment.

Introspection, meditation, analysis, using the logical mind when possible. I often like to delve deep, find meaning, and understand things thoroughly. I am still perfecting this skill, but it has been useful to find understand others, life, myself and love. I'm not the best at this yet, in fact I struggle with my monkey mind. I am told it gets easier, and better with practice. Meditation helps calm the mind body and soul, thus making reality seem clear. Which leads to better living, and loving.

Yes I learned to love. I love this guy, he tries my patience constantly but I do love him. Care for him. We aren't perfect people, but we try to make each other better. We learn and grow together, (he may agree or disagree with this!), we learn together, about life, love and each other! Mostly is learning how to be focused, and heck dealing with a long term relationship! It's been tough, but worth it. Laughing together, that's one thing I have learned and enjoyed! 

Through loving I learned to laugh! Laugh at life, ourselves, and it's OK to laugh a hearty laugh as long as no one gets truly hurt (I used to be hypersensitive and get hurt at the slightest joke remotely connected to me. Lesson learned: be less hypersensitive, or come up with a good reason for that hypersensitive-ness).

There were many things learnt along the way, and many more things to learn! I am now working on my 200 hour Yoga Teacher's Training Certificate, working on a book, and learning to refine all the above mentioned skills. I've learned how to take the reigns of control over my body, and health. Never am I letting that go again (ok we say that and sometimes things happen... but to the best of my ability I will hold on to it). I will climb more, write more, love more! These will be my achievements, different from the norms or whats expected but I feel good about these...

Breathe more!


Om!


My sis and I Yoga Posing! 2012 Summer!

This was also my 200th post! :-) yaay!

Friday, February 22, 2013

Mother and Daughter Cooking Lessons

I've been spending time with my mother these few days, to keep her company, eat healthy, and relax.
So we are sitting there watching her television shows, and the phone rings.Since it's closer to me I answer it, after seeing that it is my sister calling in the caller ID. I am a punk so I answer in my dad's voice ...
Sis- ded give it to ma
Me- how did you know it was me?
Sis- give it to ma I need to talk to her its urgent.
Me- like an emergency?
Sis- yeah.
Me- she's indisposed at the mo. You can ask me I can be your stand in mother-sister
Sis- no I need her!!!!
 

Worried that it is something serious... like "girl problems" or something, I give the phone to my mom. A long conversation ensues on how my sister is trying to make my mom's delicious cauliflower curry, and my mom giving her instructions while she does it.

15 minutes later still listening to the these two banter. My mom is seriously giving my sis a step by step on the phone cooking lesson, as we hear dishes clang and clash in the background. My mom tells her to heat some oil in the frying pan, and in the mean time get the spices ready, and dice up an onion. Also she must set the potatoes to cook separately, and since she has no pressure cooker, she must boil it. 

My mom tells sis - add 3/4 panch pharang, jeere, and diced onion to the hot oil in the frying pan...
Sis - umm this is a little scary (as the oil splatters a little) 

Mom- ... after lowering the heat of the oil.
Mom - this is such a simple and easy recipe, you can't go wrong with it.
Sis - none of this is easy!
Mom - check to see if the potatoes are cooked si
multaneously
Sis- they look done...
Mom- no you need to prick it... don't just "look" at it!
Me- stab it you need to staaaaaab it! (I say in the background, with a stabbing motion).

Mom- (bursts out laughing) You two are too cute, well you are a little insane (pointing at me, and she resumes instructing my sis.


Eventually my sister completes the food, but realizes there's nothing to eat it with ie. Indian food is usually eaten with rice/ roti  or naan (types of Indian Bread). She has no rice, but she does have couscous and quinoa. My mom says either is acceptable. She prepares it and sends us a picture and boy does it look yummy!







Breathe

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

An Autumn Blessed with Many Life Lessons

This month has been one of many many lessons.
Through grief and sorrow, pain, stress, caring, sharing, loving, many a tear, hugs, goodbyes, prayers, loneliness and togetherness; I have made it through.
The sky has been much grey, of late. The sky weeps many tears down to earth.
The trees are naked, all unclothed.
Fall has always been majestic, dreamy, eerie, and even dark.



Looking back:

My grandmother gets progressively ill, and makes no sense on the phone. The sound in her voice says she was crying out for help and mercy. My Father leaves to India, fearing it may be too late. She holds on and he gets there, and she barely recognizes him. He takes care of her and spends much needed time with her, as I balance spending time with my mother who is a little ill due to a cold, and with my boyfriend, who has some health issues himself. After a few days, my dad gets burnt out, and needs back up, as he is at a loss when it comes to geriatric care, however he is managing and is so humbled to be doing so. He emails my sister and I often with notes on how he feels, and the entirety of the experience.

It is the weekend of Durga Puja, the celebration of the Divine Feminine and we celebrate it reluctantly with cousins here. Durga Puja is the main reason my father decided to go to India, to spend it with his mother and celebrate with her.She is unable to celebrate, but he find time to go back to our remote village of Kudra, to observe the festivities there. He tells us in an email, that the people there have so little, but have the biggest hearts, and their warmth is overwhelming. That's the best type of people right?

My mother departs for India and reaches their safely. She is strong and gets on top of things, but the conditions are harsh, and one can get burnt out quickly. I have health issues of my own, which I had been putting off for a long time, and finally I get my appointment after a month of waiting. This doctor is amazing, thorough and personal. She goes over everything with me, my entire history of health to get to the bottom of this problem, this pain, once and for all.

I speak to my uncle, my sister, my grandparents in New York everyday. I don't realize how often I call my mom and dad, until now. Facing these health issues alone, really suck, but it is something we learn to do, or don't. Hurricane Sandy comes and blows through the East Coast... I lose touch for two days from my sis, uncle and grandparents. Anxiety levels rise. I really miss them, and I am in utter pain, it is rather crappy. Who do I reach out to? I have no energy to laugh, love or even pray... I finally was able to cry myself to sleep last night, and what a relief it was to let go. oh what a heavy burden was lifted. I realize that happiness and satisfaction is not through material things or wealth... but the decisions we make in life regarding, loved ones (family and friends), health, awareness and growth in spirituality and truly caring and sharing.

Today I sang some lovely songs to myself and I felt much better, and I was finally able to pray. Praying is something new, I been learning to accept the possibility of a Higher Power, thanks to "The Artist's Way". It is slow but steady progress, and it's so good to be able to love again. There was a drought due to the sadness I feel through empathizing for my my grandmother in India, my dad's feelings as he is present for her, my mother's feelings as she goes to make peace and forgive a demented little old lady, and ask for her forgiveness in return.

A deep reminder that Karma does exist... the decisions you make today weather big or small, will come back to haunt you later in life. Be mindful, be patient, and value the people in your life, more than anything else in the world.




Thursday, August 30, 2012

CRASH!

Every so often, we experience something that breaks us down, and then we pick up the pieces, and figure out how to put ourselves together. I call this growth. I build a stronger and matured ME, until the next time I am forced to regroup and rethink my personal life strategy, goals, approach, and self.

Every single time I have had a car accident in my life, my sister has always been with me. When we were children my sister and I were in a car and playing a game in the back seat, when our car was smashed between two buses. Then again we were together, returning from college, in my little Toyota Passeo '92, when a guy rear ended us at a stop sign. The Toyota Passeo came to it's end when she was driving it, and I was following in a different car, at a distance, and someone T-boned the car. It was the scarey, for I heard it all on the phone. The car saved her life, and the lives of friends. Then this past Tuesday we were heading up to Cleveland to install some art, protesting against gun violence in the US, with friends, when I drove into a construction cone, the speed and angle was enough to do damage to the car, but we were safe. And we were there for each other once again.

We proceeded to install the art, and driving through Cleveland, without one functional mirror was difficult, and after traveling and working all day, I was about done. I experienced a catharctic moment and all this vile negativity, and darkness was purged from my system, and my sister had to witness it. We forgave each other, ourselves, and I was able to slowly recuperate.

It is only by passing through the darkest night, and the darkest hour, will we ever see a shimmer of light, a twinkle of hope, and smell the magic, of life. My sister and I, like all siblings, argue, fight, don't see eye to eye and have to come to an understanding. We have a lot of healing to go through together, and the journey so far is, although turbulent, lovely. I would not want to go through it with anyone else. I am glad to be there for her.

One day we will be able to look back at our darkest hours together and laugh at it. We will use our love to change the world into a better place, because that is just who we are. We go through touch periods, but we are mindful to focus on love, light, learning, and laughter. We wish to help others and teach this to them too.

The needed $300 worth of fixing, but I will work hard to pay that bill. My sister and I were safe, and material things come and go, but life does not. We mean more to each other, even with out whining, bitching, crabbiness, than without each other, and all the light in the world. After all the crashes, after all the break downs, we have grown so much, and been there for each other, and that's what counts the most.

Breathe!


shattered glass, only to be rebuilt a new
we do love each other dearly!

Friday, August 10, 2012

NOLA...

Last year (2011) in July I visited my sister in New Orleans.... I needed to go see her, and go somewhere different.
She was doing an internship there and living in a historic french plantation. This was a perfect opportunity to go see a new place and discover myself. I was not prepared for what happened.

This trip was going to happen. So I flew from CLE to Atlanta to New Orleans. It was very late at night Wed when I reached. The taxi driver I got was Indian (I guess taxi drivers in most major American cities are Indian), he took me straight to my sister's place which was on a strange sounding, lesser street (Kerlerec St) in the French Quarter (between Treme and French Quarter) so it was hard to find. He dropped me off, and I got his number for my ride back to the airport on Sunday, because my flight was at 6 so had to be there by 5 latest.

My sister came out and greeted me warmly, and she took me in to show me the place, and introduce me to all her room mates, the puppies, the roaches and the spirits that resided there. This was the just beginning. There was a man who lived upstairs, rather curious guy, she had two male room mates, and a Deens her classmate from her program in NYC. The set up was strange. She had a huge, high cielinged room to herself, with a make shift kitchen with mini fridge, a dining table with 3 folding chairs, and attached bathroom with a bathtub, but no shower, but a hand-shower. Her room/living quarters were down stairs, while upstairs there was a living room, and a kitchen, and small dining area, and three interconnected bedrooms and one bathroom. It was a strange set up, but it was a very old, well kept place. They were all taking care of a puppy altogether, which my sister had rescued. This was an interesting but warm family they had come to be, just for a summer.

In the morning I awoke and saw the garden for the first time. The garden was lovely, with banana trees, and all sorts of tropical type fauna I enjoyed it for a bit. My sister made breakfast and coffee for everyone and we headed to her work. I was to accompany her and work with her that day. She was interning for Green Light New Orleans (which is a non-profit organization which supplies CFL lights to people who can not afford it, to help them reduce their electricity bills). I was going to go with a few volunteers to help change out a few light bulbs in some houses. The building for Green Light NOLA was amazing, and the director of the organization is a musician. He was very friendly and interesting, also a musician.

I went out to do the volunteer work with Michelle and another girl. They were experts at light fixtures, and changing out all sorts of bulbs. When Katrina was threatening NOLA, Michelle and her family had to evacuate. She was very young, but she remembers she had these new bedsheets that she loved, and had to leave them behind. Everything, their family pictures all had to be left behind. When they came back, their house was destroyed, they weren't covered by insurance, and had no assistance from the government for some reason (I forgot). Some people were just left out, due to loopholes in the law. She helped her father rebuild the house which is why she know knew a lot about light fixtures and house building. She was lovely, smiley young girl! A lot of the houses we went to were in the projects/ ghetto. We got to meet and talk to a lot of locals. They were so nice to us, and it was the best experience I had as a traveler/tourist - to go into peoples homes, help them and talk to them. It was real, and heart wrenching, to see and

That night there was a party at her place and friends from all over were present. Also the lady downstairs was having a party as well. My sister, interned for the lady that lived downstairs in the main part of the house and who also owned the property. So there was a lot of new and interesting people who I met that night. The area that she lived in was not safe at all at night (or even in the day time), so we did not go out that night at all.

The next morning we went to work as well, and this time a whole bunch of us went to help the New Orleans Hornets (the basketball team), and was in a place with affordable living, for senior citizens. It was nice to be able to help the Hornets help people! They were all sincere and got the work done despite a very heavy rainstorm, which got everyone soaking wet.

My sister and I got home and dried up. We were soaking wet and freezing. We had a little fight that evening and she left me in her room. There I sat pitying myself, until I heard a noise. It was then that I remembered there were "spirits" that my sister had experienced, and I was skeptical of, in that house. I was nervous and sat on the bed really wishing she would come back soon and sorry that we ever fought. I don't even remember what the fight was about.

She came back eventually and said we would be going out with one of her friends from new york, who was in New Orleans for a bachelor party. At this point I didn't care, we just had to go have fun. We got ready and began walking down the dark road to the main part of the French Quarter. Before leaving my sister put on her Southern "Nawrlins" accent, for protection! ;-) It worked! We blended in as locals, although our faces were painted all fancy (she does fancy face painting and it is absolutely stunning).

As we approached the meeting point, she warned me her friend was "interesting", and she hadn't met his friends before, but she assured me it would be fun. So I thought, OK here I go, I must OPEN my mind, (also sometimes social situations make me nervous, anxious and shy. Surprising isn't it?). We met "Sting" as I later nicknamed him, in the middle of some street, he had a large cup of some alcohol with him. Yes the freedom of drinking in public is awesome! Now the REAL adventure begins.

We met Sting and his friends at an apartment they were renting for the bachelor party, which was above an awesome bar, right by the Treme and not too far from the French Quarter and Bourbon street (we later felt the bourbon street was fun, but very touristy and boring). We began getting drunk (my sister has been sober for a year, and stayed sober the whole night, but was the life of the party), and decided to head to some bars, get some food, and go to the infamous The House of the Rising Sun. Yes it does exist, you just need to ask the right people! This House of the Rising Sun, is a artist/ tree-house community. Just like the Ewok community, they live in trees. It was very amazing climbing up tall trees in the middle of the night. There were, no roaches, and no bathrooms, so you kind of had to pee from up there. We eventually left because there was no beer. Sting and his buddies were awesome, and we had wonderful, inspiring conversations all night.

Somehow we ended up going home, in the almost morning hours. The bar we were at were all pet friendly. How awesome is that!?! Friendly pets, friendly drunk owners, walking around the streets! We woke up and I sobered up. My sister wanted to show me Jackson Square, the heart of the French Quarter. We ate some craw-fish, and I got a few Hurricanes. We wandered around, and bumped into her friend who was a street artist, and we helped him get his art work together. Who also stated that I was so drunk that I was cross-eyed!

Later that day we met a man who read palms, and had some good philosophy to share, and claimed to have traveled the world. We saw a few NOLA weddings pass by, and danced and joined in with some of them! Then headed to dinner - Gumbo and Jambalaya, delicious desserts and more Hurricanes!! Hung out with one of her room mates in a cigar shop, and met up with Sting and the guys. We headed to dinner downtown, and then to the strip clubs. Yes. We went there and hung out with no show strippers = Crystal Clear, invisible Sybil, transparent Patty, see through Sally, imaginary Mary. So then we went and found a real classy-crappy strip club on Bourbon St., and that was went really wild, now all I can say is what happens in NOLA, stays in NOLA!

After this experience we went to a few bars, and ended up talking on the rooftop listening to classics. We had a seemingly non stop supply of alcohol, I have no idea where it came from. Sting and his guys performed a song for the bachelor! I think I was drunk and sang in the performance too! :-P My Bad! Then we headed to Jazz clubs on Frenchmen St. and the live music there, so much to choose from. So much music, so much booze! Wow!

My sis and I ended up home in the wee hours and I had to get some sleep before leaving. I was showering to wash up, but there just happened to be a roach chirping in the bathroom, and flying around! My sister went over board with the spraying and fumigation, and we had to conduct a detour on whatever bathroom activities had to be done, my sister, my mom and I have an irrational fear of roaches. We made it to bed, and in the morning my taxi driver was there! I said good-bye and cried a little, for as of then I emerged as a Tiger. I lose the tigress in me ever so often, but she is there, slumbering.

Pet Friendly Bar, great hotel/apartment to rent, upstairs

One of the jazz bars on Frenchman St.

Yummy food by Jackson Sqr

Message!

Green Light NOLA Logo!

Frenchman St
Realizations... and fun with sister!
Sister making breakfast

Puppy

Face painting!
One of the Jazz clubs...
Bourbon or some street or the other!
This guy was selling brownies... special brownies? ;-)
My sis enjoys talking to everyone!
Crawfish and hurricanes!
NOLA Down Town
hanging at the cigar store!

Sting and the guys hanging in the tree house. You can kind of see P in the back.
A meditating frog in NOLA







Tuesday, May 22, 2012

A Weekend In NYC

A lovely weekend in NYC with family and friends!

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Piyali dances with Fire!
My sister performs for us with fire (this is only her second time doing it with actual fire. Please do not try this at home!)

Toni Sings
Toni Tone my sister's friend sings in the dark night, at my uncle's place in Long Island.

Besame Mucho in the Park
This was under my sister's favorite tree in central park.


Monday, December 07, 2009

Things Learnt in 2009

Tolerance - i need to be more tolerant of my sister and she of me. we get on each other's nerves. We are poles apart different people. we shared eachother's lives for over 20 years, we know each other best, though we are separate people. tolerance to love each other and hate each other must be learned.

Patience - to deal with these trying times. to try over and over again for something which will never seem to work out. it seems so taxing and one of the most hardest things to learn. To wait... to anticipate with weary hearts.

Forgiveness - i learnt once from a very close friend that to forgive is like a blessing from a higher force. To cast away one's mistakes but love their very soul is something so deep, and a mystery to many people. Some have mastered it. I patiently try to forgive. To me mistakes involving one's heart and soul is harder to forgive rather than with inanimate objects which don't matter with regard to the immensity of Everything.

Compassion - passion to live life, work hard and make a difference was always my driving force. however compassion is something i lost. I remember working hard on christmas/season's greetings cards one year. I got so few replies it hurt to send any out the next year. Compassion is similar to unconditional love... its all so tricky... to love the right way is skill or some other word like being gifted.

Discipline - To live in moderation. To me this means to take care of my body. I am lucky to have a good one, which is all too damaged yet with injuries, and abuse. So to treat it with care would be my goal. To pursue things that will enlighten me and help me better myself is another goal, this can be done by focusing, limiting and disciplining myself.

Courage - I shrink after every fall, it takes me a long time to get back up. No matter how hard the fall we should never be disheartened, but spring upon our feet and meet life with full force. EVERY TIME. Have a fiery heart and determination to always get back up.

Confidence - believe in one's self and that alone is all the power you need. Do not be arrogant, pretentious or self righteous... but a confidence full of humility. To be humble is tricky these days, but it is a virtue. Confidence can be achieved with humility, however the balance is tricky.

I shall strive for these character qualities which have been diluted through the many days, journeys and trials i have faced these passed years.

ok this is all. I trust it would be a good lesson for most.


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