Meditation On My Mind

As well as meditating, I am also giving up alcohol for so many reasons.

I don't consider myself an alcoholic, but I do think I do have a problem - self medicating.

Many of us use alcohol, yes we enjoy it for the first few sips, but then don't know when to stop, right?

Whatever.

I'm almost 90 days sober, my boyfriend has been an awesome help in the process, however lately I've been thirsty. Sometimes I feel the thirst out of the need to relax, calm my nerves, or just because all my friends are doing it. The cool kids are doing it. I'm not a "cool kid" anymore cause being sober is not cool.

It's so difficult to not judge them, or not let me imagining them judging me affect me. It's twisted really. Try being sober for 90 days, and your brain will get clear, and sometimes even over analyze? Or maybe it's because I don't have anything to placate my hormones anymore. There is a definite change in body, mind and soul.

I ask for courage, from the unknown, for it is sometimes so hard to say no. Its just a drink right? Its legal. I don't have a problem...

Hmm so much of life to contemplate with those few sentences, and when I look at why i am changing my self for all the above questions, I begin applying it to others, and I see so many people who have problems! And I feel - If I am fixing myself why shouldn't they?

It's not easy.
The first four lines of the serenity prayer have been so helpful to meditate on.

"____, grant me the Serenity
To accept the things I cannot change...
Courage to change the things I can,
And Wisdom to know the difference."

Meditation, and the prayer, help me remove the negative feelings which arise sometimes out of being sober, or observing other people drinking. I see myself counting drinks others have, but then I breathe, close my eyes, or just smile, and think to myself. I am good with the way I am. I am strong. I am a loving caring person. Reach out and make sure everyone gets home safe.

Just like in climbing, we get rid of the fears, panic. I try to condition myself mentally, to love, accept, and even though I see clearly now, understand and accept myself, before judging others.

Nomophobia

Everyone has it.

Nomophobia - this new term that describes an affliction which ails most of us in this modern age of  the 2000s. "No Mobile Phobia" = Nomophobia - fear of being without your cell phone for a period of time being a few minutes, or an extended period of time due to whatever reason. It causes anxiety and stress in the person. It also might just be even needing the phone, having to check it not out of compulsion/fear/anxiety, but out of habit... 

Friend and you decide to meet. It's been a while. Say "Hi's" walk into restaurant sit down. Look at menu. Talk a bit. Silence. Order food. Talk some more. Then one of the phones buzzes or plays a quirky ring tone. The friend checks their phone. It's taking a minute. So you decide to take your phone out too, and then it become dinner, talking and texting.

Even if the phone was on vibrate, we have the urge to check our phones... maybe if you have kids, or are "On Call" at work, or a loved one is in the ICU. Those are good excuses. But it comes down to respect? Who do we respect more the person infront of us or the person on the other end of the cellphone-3G-Internet - ness (whatever)?

1- Addiction/Habit

My father thinks my sister and I text too often. He is a classic type A personality, Workaholic... so he's always checking his email on his laptop, or on his phone. He reprimands us when checking the phone while driving, or being distracted while driving, but when he drives, he allows himself to check his phone every now and then. So I pointed that out to him, but his excuse to me was he runs a business.

2- Priorities

So when we are with someone do we make them the priority or family who is texting or calling the priority? I think this is a major cultural change happening all over the world and worth thinking about. I dislike texting/emailing when with friends. I realize I disrespect them a lot. And I feel the same when it happened to me. So just like when in a movie, Please silence your cell phones and put them away. Even having it on vibrate is annoying.

3- Dependencies

So I was at a party and my friend forgot someone's name, so he quickly went on to the facebook party invite page on his phone to look up the person's name. What happened to using our God Given Brain and actually using it. Once again it comes down to respect and priority.

Even just simple things like you think you know the fact of a certain thing, and when in a discussion you realize you don't know your facts to the dot. So you look it up on your phone. That's plain laziness.
Do your homework.

4- Wired

Although we enjoy "freedoms" somehow staying connected ALL THE TIME, is a new type of freedom? How do we not get tired of knowing what everyone is doing all the time? Of everyone knowing what we are doing all the time and letting everyone know? I think one day we might realize this prison we created for ourselves and want to break free!

this is how we hang out!

let's stare into our cell phones on this romantic date

ofcourse there's the iphone... also - ibuddy!

 

Smart thing to do?

Anyway I googled "Texting Mania" and so much comes up!


http://www.stickmanweekly.com/Reader2007/reader4554.htm   ---> found this cute article!


Maybe we need a Facebook Rehab, Mobile Rehab and Internet Rehab?!?!?!?

Thoughts?




I know I need to wean  myself off of Facebook and my Smartphone... focus more on me.






Breathe!