Social Networking, when the concept first came out... especially via internet, was amazing! We could now find our friends of childhood past at the click of a mouse.
As long as they had internet and access to the website.
Before which Social Networking was an art form, and one had to be typically extroverted to be able to network, collect phone numbers and addresses in a handy little book, and keep in touch via visits, phone calls, and letters. Yes snail mail and actual voice phone calls. No voicemail. No caller ID.
Can you imagine a world without smart phones, geotagging and facebook?!
It's almost like blasphemous!
God forbid we ever live that age again!
At first I remember connecting with my highschool and childhood friends, everyone was thrilled to find each other.
I recently found myself with over 1000 friends.
People I barely knew commenting on stuff on my facebook wall.
Suddenly it struck me where are my real friends? The one's I see weekly and contact day to day? They are busy living life. So who are these people? Why are they even on my friends list? So future me can contact them at a future date when I am in need?
But if they are commenting the comments right now, and I really am not close to them now, will I want to hang out with them? I think not. Why did I add the annoying girl from highschool? Why did i add the stalker boy from college? Why am I still friends with my ex? and my ex's best friend?
If we were meant to be friends it will happen on its own.
Another scenario: I need to contact friend who lives in California because I want to catch up with an old high school friend. I try desperately to contact her on Facebook, the email listed on her FB and her cell listed there. All to no avail. All this over a couple of months. Yeah I am a fool.
Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.
I decided to do some weeding. Yes I took out the weeds, and am still doing so.
Facebook feed, facebook ticker, privacy settings... for 1000+ people?
I just want my good friends to be in touch with me NOW. Future me can fend for herself.
Past me needs to leave the childhood, and highschool stuff behind.
Present Me is happy for the people in my life now, and for the ones in the past and the ones to be there in the future... but I don't need to label everyone, and I don't need to "friend" everyone.
This is an email I sent out to my nearest and dearest, when I got so frustrated with trying to track people down, despite "facebook", "geotagging" and the rest of the social networking mumbojumbo.
so lately realizing that the term "friend" is so watered down.
thanks to Facebook especially.
when you "friend" someone you are just collecting a person.
how many of those people are "friends". does being a good friend matter?
what does "friend" even mean?
it's either very simple or very complicated... however everyone has their own definitions now.
own rating systems... so how do you even know where you stand?
I found it tough to keep in touch even with social networking and thus no use for adding people or even trying.
what happened to "let bygones be bygones" I found my self still holding on. Is this healthy?
Just had these random questions recently and was wondering what you thought and/or experienced.
I have friends who will be my friends even though we haven't talked in years and I know they are my friends despite time and space.
I know they will reply to my email/text/call back eventually.
We know how to each other that intimately.
I have acquiantances who I talk to everyday might hang out with, but does that make them my "friend"? Privy to my life details? Must we categorize all the people in our lives in a filing cabinet?
Am I over analyzing?
The School KFI (I was lucky to have gone to a school founded and based on the philosophies of J. Krishnamurti - Indian philosopher. Please look him up if you have never heard of him) taught me to question, so I am questioning! Or is this a totally wrong approach? :-P
I guess ultimately my question is: Dear friend! if I am to reach you what is the best method?
phone? text? email? letter? facebook? twitter? Honestly tell me so I don't get frustrated and give up on our friendship (if it even exists) due to waiting for a reply from the wrong mode of communication!
Funny because my friend finally got a texting plan and an iphone... I had no idea! But phonecalls just work way better between us. However I can still text her!
I have another friend who texts, but she often keeps her phone in her bag and doesn't hear it. :-P Annoying but we learn to live with it. These devices, connections have helped us make life so much more convenient, at the same time annoying for those who don't succumb to the culture of it all.
Then again meetup helped me find the awesomest group of climbing friends in the world!They reply to my texts/ calls and put up with my autocorrect issues!
I don't know... we are at a strange time in the world.
What are your thoughts on this issue? I am so open to hearing ideas, opinions, solutions...
Breathe!!!!
As long as they had internet and access to the website.
Before which Social Networking was an art form, and one had to be typically extroverted to be able to network, collect phone numbers and addresses in a handy little book, and keep in touch via visits, phone calls, and letters. Yes snail mail and actual voice phone calls. No voicemail. No caller ID.
Can you imagine a world without smart phones, geotagging and facebook?!
It's almost like blasphemous!
God forbid we ever live that age again!
At first I remember connecting with my highschool and childhood friends, everyone was thrilled to find each other.
I recently found myself with over 1000 friends.
People I barely knew commenting on stuff on my facebook wall.
Suddenly it struck me where are my real friends? The one's I see weekly and contact day to day? They are busy living life. So who are these people? Why are they even on my friends list? So future me can contact them at a future date when I am in need?
But if they are commenting the comments right now, and I really am not close to them now, will I want to hang out with them? I think not. Why did I add the annoying girl from highschool? Why did i add the stalker boy from college? Why am I still friends with my ex? and my ex's best friend?
If we were meant to be friends it will happen on its own.
Another scenario: I need to contact friend who lives in California because I want to catch up with an old high school friend. I try desperately to contact her on Facebook, the email listed on her FB and her cell listed there. All to no avail. All this over a couple of months. Yeah I am a fool.
Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.
I decided to do some weeding. Yes I took out the weeds, and am still doing so.
Facebook feed, facebook ticker, privacy settings... for 1000+ people?
I just want my good friends to be in touch with me NOW. Future me can fend for herself.
Past me needs to leave the childhood, and highschool stuff behind.
Present Me is happy for the people in my life now, and for the ones in the past and the ones to be there in the future... but I don't need to label everyone, and I don't need to "friend" everyone.
What has Facebook done to the term "Friend"?
This is an email I sent out to my nearest and dearest, when I got so frustrated with trying to track people down, despite "facebook", "geotagging" and the rest of the social networking mumbojumbo.
so lately realizing that the term "friend" is so watered down.
thanks to Facebook especially.
when you "friend" someone you are just collecting a person.
how many of those people are "friends". does being a good friend matter?
what does "friend" even mean?
it's either very simple or very complicated... however everyone has their own definitions now.
own rating systems... so how do you even know where you stand?
I found it tough to keep in touch even with social networking and thus no use for adding people or even trying.
what happened to "let bygones be bygones" I found my self still holding on. Is this healthy?
Just had these random questions recently and was wondering what you thought and/or experienced.
I have friends who will be my friends even though we haven't talked in years and I know they are my friends despite time and space.
I know they will reply to my email/text/call back eventually.
We know how to each other that intimately.
I have acquiantances who I talk to everyday might hang out with, but does that make them my "friend"? Privy to my life details? Must we categorize all the people in our lives in a filing cabinet?
Am I over analyzing?
The School KFI (I was lucky to have gone to a school founded and based on the philosophies of J. Krishnamurti - Indian philosopher. Please look him up if you have never heard of him) taught me to question, so I am questioning! Or is this a totally wrong approach? :-P
I guess ultimately my question is: Dear friend! if I am to reach you what is the best method?
phone? text? email? letter? facebook? twitter? Honestly tell me so I don't get frustrated and give up on our friendship (if it even exists) due to waiting for a reply from the wrong mode of communication!
Funny because my friend finally got a texting plan and an iphone... I had no idea! But phonecalls just work way better between us. However I can still text her!
I have another friend who texts, but she often keeps her phone in her bag and doesn't hear it. :-P Annoying but we learn to live with it. These devices, connections have helped us make life so much more convenient, at the same time annoying for those who don't succumb to the culture of it all.
Then again meetup helped me find the awesomest group of climbing friends in the world!They reply to my texts/ calls and put up with my autocorrect issues!
I don't know... we are at a strange time in the world.
What are your thoughts on this issue? I am so open to hearing ideas, opinions, solutions...
Breathe!!!!
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